Everywhere You Want to Be

I've come to learn throughout the years that it's pointless to worry about what you should or could have done in life, what might have happened if you'd made a different choice or punish ourselves for not taking the b and c options life has offered. Reason being, we are exactly where we're supposed to be, exactly when we're supposed to be there.

I used to drive myself crazy making sure I was at all the social engagements I was "supposed" to be at, worried that if I wasn't there I'd miss something - I now just chalk that up to youth because now, if I don't want to go to something, I simply don't go. I miss things now just because I don't feel like being there and I really don't care if it was "the place to be" - whatever. Sometimes my favorite place to be on a weekend night is on my laptop, flipping channels or reading a book. Running around to every social engagement on the planet is how folks keep running into exes all the time anyway.

If I had taken any one of the many detours I'd been offered in life, I could just as easily become a young millionairess as I could have taken a really bad turn and become a...I don't know, burnt-out housewife in slippers yelling at kids to get off her lawn. As it turns out, I am a very happy person who gets to do what she loves, travel and interact with a multitude of different people who enrich me on the regular. I could wonder what would have happened if I taken that job located on the lower left end of my life map but I could have then become a woman so absorbed with my career, I spent the rest of my life wishing I had time to produce events for women but never actually doing it. I could wonder what had happened if I stayed in the relationship earlier in my life, I could be looking at a considerably larger version of myself - eating to fill the voids in my relationship.

I think it's important to remember every day that you're not late, you don't need to be somewhere else, you shouldn't have worn that other outfit. Instead, look for the lesson in why you made the decision you did - you'll have an opportunity to use that lesson another time.